Justice For All

The so called "black community" is suppose to be one of a loving and caring kind. However, in reality, everyone knows that the "black community" can turn their backs on you faster then a heartbeat. In the case of Anita Hill and Clarence Thomas that's exactly what happened. Anita Hill decided to voice the wrongs that had happened to her while working with Clarence Thomas, who had the time was about to be elected to the Surpreme Court. Instead of supporting her for voicing the wrongs, many black people shunned her for saying what happened to her. They felt that she shouldn't have said anything about what had happened because he was about to be put into a positive of power. But why should a woman of any color not speak up about what has happened if it is wrong. Regardless if both are black or white, a crime is a crime, and no one should have to keep quite just becasue some in about to be put into some kind of power. what people fail to realize is the message these words are sending to the younger generations. If you tell someone that they should keep their mouths closed because the person who did them wrong is a black man or a black woman and the "black community" needs to have someone black in power, then it is telling the same thing to the child of the "black community".

~~~A Phenomenal Woman~~~

Domestic Violence

So it is a known fact that many people feel that domestic violence is wrong. However, if it is so wrong then why is it still occurring. There is no need for men to beat on women, nor is it a reason for women to beat on men. However, some religions and cultures feel that it is okay to beat on women. There are many organizations that help with trying stop domestic violence. And in my opinion many more people need to start participating in these groups and help raise money for women who are being victimized by men. This video is a classic and should be watched by anyone who has not watched it and again by anyone who has. This video is a true testament as to what many women go through with domestic violence in their relationship, and the possible and in most case most likely ending of that relationship. Help stop the violence people. Its the only way to help women keep living.

~~~A Phenomenal Woman~~~

Reality TV in the black community

Reality TV is a rising epidemic. It is something that many people feel that is easy to get. In this video Keyshia Cole talks about how she felt when her mother and sister got there own show and they didn't include her, since it was a spin off of her show.  This just goes to show how reality tv can help split up the black family.

Drug Addictions and African American women

This is a video of a woman who is a drug addict. She is being sued for stealing money from her dying mother to support her drug addiction. Drugs are a leading cause of why blacks are looked at in such a bad light. There is no reason why drugs should be taking over the "black community" the way that they are. But we all know in reality it's what many believe that whites want. They want blacks to degrade themselves and bring themselves down so that they do not have too. So as a whole African Americans and African American women need to come together to help fight these problems. It is the only way that we can ever advance in this country.

~~~A Phenomenal Woman~~~

"skinny bitches are evil"

 Now we all know that Monique's key phrase is and always have been "Skinny Bitches are Evil". She was a proud advocate for big women. Yet many big women are starting to lose drastic amounts of weight. I don't know if it's because they are starting to realize that even though you can be sexy and big; however, big and sexy is not healthy. Being big, and extremely big will cause you to die at an early age. I have had several people in my family die early from being obese, and I am not planning on dying anytime soon from obesity. Now in my opinion there is no reason for some one to get extremely big. And if you are considered obese you need to start working out now and trying to lose those excess pounds. Because there is nothing sexy about being six feet under.

~~~A Phenomenal Woman~~~~

India.Arie - I Am Not My Hair ft. Akon

The Natural Look

OK so I wasn't going to post an entry on the natural look that is so rapidly growing popular. However, after this weekend's events I felt that it was necessary for me to make this entry. Now this is going to have some comments from some family members that I love and adore. And even though I am not trying to offend anybody and get on anyone's bad side, I am sure that I am going to have some calls or text messages regarding whatever is said in this entry. I have always wanted to go natural, and eventually I would like to grow dreads. However, when I told this to my mother she said that my hair was too pretty to just cute it because I wanted to. Well recently I decided to cut out all of my perm and go natural. So now I have a small afro, that I personality like and think it's cute. However, this was the first time that the family that I made a special trip to Arkansas to see, since they live in Wisconsin and I rarely get to see them. This is also only the second time that my mother had seen me since I cut it. Now you would think that since I had decided to cut my hair and do something different that my family would be behind me. However, as many people know, everyone has their own opinion and that is exactly what was expressed this weekend. Now some of my family, like my Aunt Carmen (who is an aborigine, or for those who don't know a black Australian) and my Auntie Kathy (the lady who have an entry about), loved the decision I made and support me 100%. Both of them agree that this hair cut suits me and it agrees. The only comment my Auntie Kathy made was that "all you need is some big hooped earrings". Which she knows I don't do, because I am not the girly type. However, this was not the same reaction that I got from everyone I seen. My great grandfather, whom I love to death and means the world to me, politely me told me I need to grow my hair back out because I cut it and I look like a little boy. And my mother for some reason thinks that I need more then just stop big hooped earrings. She feels that I need to put a treatment in it because it is too thick. Now this is my thing. I did the natural look because that is what I wanted to do. Many women are doing the same thing because it is their choice. Now many people are saying that it is a trend which is the reason why they are cutting their hair. But why waste money on getting chemicals put into your head. They were only invented to help black women look more like white women in the first place. I love my beautiful thick curly nappy stuff on my head. And I honestly don't care what anyone says about it. This is my body and my head. And the last time I checked no one has to comb this stuff out but me. So why should I put something in it to make it easier to comb if I like it just the way it is. My advice to women who are thinking about going natural or have gone natural is to love your beautiful thick stuff on your head. You don't have to put anything in it to help it grow or easier to comb if it is not what you want to do. Love yourself and others will love you too.
~~~A Phenomenal Woman~~~